Unhelpfully helping others

So it should be very obvious by this point how unhelpful gratification is but let me address it for a moment in the context of how we go about helping others. Gratification so often looks like we're doing something good when in reality, we're not. The same is true when it comes to our interactions... Continue Reading →

Gratification is addictive

Gratification itself is addictive, not just the individual dependencies that come to mind when we think of addiction.  Smoking, alcohol, meth, gambling, sex, social media etc. all often feel like separate aspects of our lives which leads many of us to believe that if we can just keep them separate that they won't effect the... Continue Reading →

Daily foundation

Great days don't have to be random chance. They can be made, even with a very high rate of success. There's multiple recipes and you might wanna try out a wide variety before you settle down on your unique flavours and preferences, but eventually you're likely going to find that with just an hour or... Continue Reading →

Gratifying lies

When we talk about it, it makes sense. Excuses are excuses. However, when it's not the conscious part of our discussion, we still too often end up living the lie, spending our days making the same gratifying comments or thinking the same unhelpful things: If only I had... I'll be happy when... Life will finally... Continue Reading →

The unprepared will too likely gratify

In case this hasn't been sufficiently explicitly stated thus far: the unprepared are too likely to do themselves more harm than good in acquiring any degree of mass resources. It's dangerous. If the way one currently spends their existing resources indicates they gratify themselves more than edifying themselves then adding more 'capacity' will surely just... Continue Reading →

Tighten your world

Don't forget the rest If you want to take 'making the most of life' seriously, you're going to need to give at least some consideration to not just your primary connections and stakeholders, but all of them. It remains my current opinion that we live in a world where most of us feel a need... Continue Reading →

Work

Keep work prioritised Remember your own priority order of connections & stakeholders. Specific employers or clients aren't likely on the top of your list. If you happen to agree with me, they're probably behind/below your own conscience, your spouse as well as your kids and maybe even family and friends. Appreciating that there might be... Continue Reading →

Children

Helpful, honest benchmarks Just like the wife, all external stakeholders begin with: Example, love, conscious alignment, and finally then an individual alignment to truth. We better others by connecting them to truth, making them more functional. The best way to do that is to exemplify the same while lovingly inviting them do so themselves. Children... Continue Reading →

Wife

I already argued that the greatest place we can start aligning ourselves is with our own conscience. Once that's underway and being appropriately prioritised, we can start looking outwards to others. I'll explain the reasoning a little further on, but in short it's my current opinion that one of if not the greatest thing we... Continue Reading →

Conscience: The first stakeholder

While discovering all of these 'edifying concepts', a theme I repetitively found myself re-highlighting was the difference between 'edification' and the more traditional 'needs not wants' idea. It feels almost necessary that one gives honest consideration to the things that they 'want' (as 'wants' are an internal thing and generally speaking 'to edify' usually means... Continue Reading →

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